Anyone who has spent even a few minutes in the dating world knows that people can be less than nice…OK, down right rude. Most of the time though, you just get radio silence. It’s sadly rare to get a respectful blow off.
Here’s the thing, rejection sucks. The only thing you can do is treat someone the way you’d want to be treated in their shoes.
Today, I saw this post on Buzzfeed: This Is One Of The Most Brutal Responses To A Breakup Text You’ll Ever See. It’s fascinating to see everyone react to it.
My initial reaction was, “What’s her problem? At least she didn’t get completely ignored.”
As someone who in the past has been dumped with regularity, seeing a guy respectfully say to her thanks, but no thanks, was refreshing. Of course, I’ve said that to a guy and he didn’t take it well. I meant it sincerely, but his ego wanted to be pissed off.
Then I see she sent screen shots of text messages to his boss? Wow. Calm down there, lady.
This man didn’t wrong you as far as I can tell. He didn’t lie to you for years, physically or mentally abuse you, cheat on you with countless women and/or steal money from you.
He simply dumped you.
It happens to EVERYONE. And yes, it sucks the big one and I’m sorry it happened to you, but from my experience, it’s for the best. The universe might be trying to tell you something. What? I have no idea. You have to figure that out for yourself.
I will admit to overreacting to being dumped. I was young and letting my ego get out of control. Luckily, it was before blogs and internets.
Here’s the other thing, every woman wants to be in a relationship. You’re lying to yourself if you weren’t considering it even on date one. That doesn’t make a relationship the end all be all of your existence. It just enhances it. There’s nothing wrong with being single and don’t let yourself tell you any different.