One thing I’ve realized from reading various wedding websites is that everything outside the norm is controversial. And if you don’t have your etiquette down to a T, you’re an awful, awful person who probably kicks kittens for fun.
Seriously, people need to calm the hell down.
We’ve done something that might cause a few of the more traditional folks to gasp in disgust. We’ve got a honeymoon registry.
Yeah, we’re horrible people.
The thing is…we don’t need more STUFF. We just spent two months purging our apartment of stuff that we’ve had for years. We don’t need china…we have no where to put china nor any real use for it. We don’t need a waffle iron. We aren’t huge eaters of waffles and don’t get sad because we can’t have waffles whenever we want them.
What we would like more of are memories. Like the ones we’ll have on our honeymoon…get your mind out of the gutter!
Really, this honeymoon registry thing is very cool. You basically tell your folks what you plan to do and how they can help fund it. They can buy you a dinner or passes to a museum…maybe you’d like a spa treatment? Put it on the registry!
It’s also great if you are having a destination wedding..in Vegas…because then no one has to travel with gifts…like us.
You can take a look at ours right here. We used Travel’s Joy and so far, I really like it. And no, I don’t expect you to give us a gift.
I had fun with it because it was a creative writing exercise for me. It was a little odd trying to figure out how much stuff cost, but thankfully we have the internet for that now.
The problem people have with this type of registry is that it’s like we’re begging for money.
Honestly, we didn’t put anything on there we can’t afford to buy for ourselves. It’s not like we’re asking our friends & family to send us to Europe for a month, first class all the way. We’re just going to see some sites and have some food. And we don’t expect to get everything on the list. We just tried to make a variety of price points available.
My son and his girlfriend are getting married in six months and they really want to do this (well, she does anyway, I think he’d be OK with regular gifts). I’m sorry, but it just makes me squirm. I’m not really all that much of a traditionalist, but this one is a bit too much of a stretch for me. But I guess I’ll live if this is really what they want to do. #SITSSharefest
Thanks for the comment!
I think if you do both (regular and honeymoon) registries that might be a little bad form. But, if you been on your own for a while and have a bunch of stuff that younger newlyweds might need or if you are having a destination wedding, it’s a good idea. I mean you don’t have to take stuff with you to the wedding.
I don’t really think of getting married in Vegas as a “destination” wedding, but I suppose it is.
I also kind of like the idea of using this registry for other celebrations. Like if you are graduating from college and would like to take a trip before jumping into the workforce or if you are celebrating a big anniversary, 25, 40 years, and are having a party, but don’t want physical gifts.
It’s probably not for everyone, but it’s a nice alternative to getting stuff you might not need.
I think this is a great idea! I think a wedding is an extension of the couple and it should reflect what they represent and desire. I think tradition is over rated and if you guys want a honeymoon registry go for it – as long as you’re both on the same page and can explain it to family members awesome! This is actually becoming a great ‘present’ for other occasions as well – my boyfriend’s birthday was last year in October and I took him for a getaway instead of buying “stuff” he didn’t need anything! We had a BLAST and the time together was just what we needed at the time.. so honestly, go for it waffle maker or Europe? I think that’s an easy one girl! Best of luck with your nuptials and hope everything works out! -Iva
Thanks for the comment! I think most of our friends and family are on board with the idea. We don’t have a traditional registry (obviously) and this is an easy way for my far flung family to send us gifts…no shipping cost involved!