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It happens more often than it should. I read a guy’s profile. He sounds great. I fit into his stated criteria, so I send him a message..
Nothing.
Well, I’m tired of being rejected by the “good on paper” guys. If I’m going to be rejected, I might as well be rejected by guys not even slightly interested in me and probably too hot for my own good.
Heck, one of them might be drunk enough to actually respond to an email I send. Stranger things have happened.
Hey, if a 51 year old man has the gumption to email me, why can’t I contact a 25 year old guy?
And if you call me a cougar, I will kick you in the shins.
I am not just going to target guys in their 20s. I’ve stated before that my dating age range is pretty wide. It goes from 25 to 47. Now, I’m just going to be focusing more on what the guy writes instead of which boxes he’s checked. Personality can go a long way. Plus, if I expand my horizons, maybe I can be pickier about who I contact. The larger the pool, the more selective I can be, right?
Now that I think about it, the updated photo did land me a date. Not sure if it was within my month timeframe, but it did work. Of course, what I really want is a boyfriend. Dating around is fun, but I’m kind of getting bored with it. I want to know what it’s like to be in a real adult relationship. I can’t remember what it’s like to be a girlfriend. I have vague memories of it being fun.
>I used to have a profile on Match but I got so sick of rejection that I stopped doing anything online at all about 6 months ago. Even though I have deactivated my profile and asked for no email I STILL get emails saying "so-and-so has winked at you" or "You've caught his attention." I'd like to respond to these emails, but I can't unless I re-subscribe. I've re-subscribed in the past only to find out that I wasn't really interested in that person in the first place. My point though is I think Match leaves people in the "pool" even though they may or may not be active. I don't really like that aspect of Match.
>That's one of the problems I have with Match too. They leave inactive profiles in the pool. You can sort by recent activity, but a lot of currently active people don't subscribe.
So, I try to wait and see if a guy I looked at looks at me. I figure that way I know he is probably subscribing and will get my message. Granted, that doesn't mean he'll respond.