>Flirting is a challenge for me. I mean, I think I know how to flirt. The real problem is because I just don’t seem to be in the right frame of mind to do it when the opportunity arises.
I appreciate the effort from the cute guy at the grocery store this morning, but mine was lame. The heart was willing, but the brain was easily flustered, distracted and confused. If I am meandering down the aisle of baked goods, you can be sure dating is the last thing on my mind. I was surfing on a sea of thoughts about pumpkin bread, spice cookies, and attempts at pies. Shifting gears in thoughts and emotions is not something easily achieved so early in the morning, much less by someone who generally doesn’t see herself as desirable.
Whenever I consciously attempt to flirt with a guy, I think I sound like Chris Farley in Tommy Boy, “…you can get a good look at a T-bone by sticking your head up a butcher’s ass… No, wait.”
Then when I’m on a date, it’s even worse. I can’t just relax and enjoy myself. Oh no. I have to analyze every little nuance of communication like I’m on a stakeout or something. It’s tough to be flirty when you are afraid the dude sitting next to you might be some variation of a scumbag. What I need to do is rely more on my vetting process before I get to the “meet in person” stage of online dating.
If I could stop thinking one of two things could happen, I could end up being hurt or I could have the time of my life. Who needs whitewater rafting to get an adrenaline rush? Just try dating.
>I tend not to notice if someone is flirting with me. (or maybe nobody has. 🙂 ) That means I don't respond correctly. It's been so long since I have had a date that I wouldn't know what to do if someone actually flirted with me. 🙂
>The big thing with flirting is eye contact and I am totally freaked out to make eye contact. I'm getting better, but it's not easy.