Dating is frustrating. I know. I did it for 20 years before I got married. I watched friend after friend and relative after relative walk down the aisle. Here’s my dating advice to you: It’s OK.
It’s OK if it doesn’t happen fast. It’s OK if you end up getting dumped. It’s OK if you can’t find someone in the next three months. It’s OK if you only have three dates in the next three years.
It’s OK if you are afraid. It’s OK if you are annoyed. It’s OK if you are tired. It’s OK if you are lonely.
Dating Advice: That’s not how any of this works.
It really pisses me off when I hear people say things like: “If I don’t find a date soon, my mom is going to put a billboard up to find me one.”
As if finding a decent romantic partner is as simple as filling an order at a fast food restaurant?
Maybe that’s why the divorce rate was so high. People used to take whoever they could get in order to fulfill some societal norm. Nowadays, people want a good partner, not just someone to help pass along their DNA. Quality can take time. The pool is much larger!
So what if you haven’t found your one true love yet or even “let’s see how this person pans out after five dates?” This isn’t a fairytale. This is life. Heck, corporate mergers take a long time to come to fruition and those don’t always pan out for the best in the long run either, right? Why should dating be quick and easy? Do you know how many variables go into a date?!? That might be fodder for another post or an entire book.
Just remember this dating advice: It’s OK.
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