>I may have mentioned this before, but I’m too lazy to surf through my previous posts to find it. It’s oddly difficult to find a guy who doesn’t want children. Honestly, I thought most men didn’t like having a family.
Am I just disillusioned by some notion floating around in popular culture or am I reading to deeply into the frustrations I see first hand? Is it just possible that guys are too afraid of being shunned by society to admit that having kids is not all it’s cracked up to be and therefore they aren’t joining that club? Or maybe they just figure that it’s what you are supposed to do, so do it?
It seems that the largest dating demographic available to me are the guys who already have children and don’t want more. I can’t, in good faith, date a guy who genuinely wants to have kids. While I might be ready to compromise most things on my dating checklist, having children has been off my “to do” list for most of my life. I don’t want to waste time on a relationship that will fail due to “denominational” differences.
>Wanting children and wanting _to care for_ children are two different things.
We used to argue about this a lot, but for some amount of folks procreation is the only opportunity at a real sense of accomplishment. Delusional are they, not disillusioned.
And you're right, these people probably should not reproduce.
–Justin