>My self esteem has always been marginal when it comes to dating and men. I’m just not used to guys flirting with me. In fact, I’m really bad at it. I can be an outgoing person most of the time, but when it comes to men I become an idiot. Fear suffocates all confidence I might have. This should come as no shock to most of you.
Anyway, this guy who works in my building tried flirting with me last week, but I acted like a doofus. I walked the halls of the building most of the day hoping that I’d run into him again, but I’d already blown it. He thought I wasn’t interested. How do I know this? Because he found me on Match.com and sent me a message!
As soon as I read the message, I was as giddy as a teenager. He was interested in me! Then, I felt embarrassed because he was under the impression that I’d ignored him. Of course I replied, but he sent the message a week ago, so who knows if he’ll get my reply.
>You are not alone hun. I was brought up in a culture of arranged marriage and women are supposed to be demure and ignore men. I was 16 when I moved to good old USA and it is hard for me when men flirt with me. I never know when someone is interested in me or not. Although I have become more Americanized as they say it, I am still naive when it comes of American tradition of dating. That is why I am single. Well, there are lot of other reasons why, but this is the main one. Good luck with this man. 🙂
>Remember: Ladies pinch their cheeks. Whores wear rouge.
>Good advice there, Butchie.
Mandeep: Apparently, I’m just as naive as you. It’s just really hard for me to believe that a man I find attractive would actually be interested in me, too. Not that I haven’t had boyfriends, it’s just that my fears tend to blur my intelligence and common sense sometimes.