>Enough about me. Let’s talk about me.

>Whenever I have to describe my life, I don’t think of it as out of the ordinary or even very interesting.  In fact, it’s been much like a Norman Rockwell painting.  That’s not to say I haven’t suffered through various slings and arrows, but for the most part, I’ve been blessed with very good family and friends and a run of the mill life. 

On all online dating sites, you have to describe yourself.  Most people balk at the idea of writing down their likes, dislikes, etc.  The thing is, in a one on one conversation, if you ask people questions about themselves, they love it.  They want to get reassurance and validation.  They want you to get excited that they just got back from a trip to a windmill in the Central Valley. They want you to ooh and ahh over the photos of their Rottweiler.

This is one way to filter out the liars, cheaters and other general scumbags.  An honest person will enjoy sharing the minutiae of their lives with you.  Someone with something to hide will avoid it as much as possible. Of course, this method isn’t foolproof.  There are some very talented scumbags out there.

But, I digress.  Think about this…What do you know more about than yourself?  You are yourself all the time.  It’s not so much that people don’t like talking about themselves, it’s that they don’t know where to start.  They need a construct. They get overwhelmed like every writer does when faced with a blank page and endless possibilities.  So, stop saying “I don’t like talking about myself.” The truth is, “I have no idea where to begin!”

3 thoughts on “>Enough about me. Let’s talk about me.

  1. Nick

    >haha. My solution to this is to talk SO MUCH about myself online in various social media outlets that when I get out IRL, I just would rather here about the other person. Plus when I really start talking about myself most people are just like "You're kidding, right?" 🙂

  2. Miss M

    >I think it could just mean they're shy or don't feel comfortable being the center of attention. Might not be a scumbag every time.

    I sent you an email to your sf chick gmail account.

  3. SFChick74

    >Well, the scumbags usually speak in generalities not specifics or use clever avoidance tactics. Shy people usually just don't respond at all. 🙂

    Thanks for the message!


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