Wedding Dress Blues

Bridal GownMy wedding is almost a month away. I can hardly believe it. You know what else is unbelievable?  I found a wedding dress that I love. Also? It cost me less than $50. Seriously. And I bought it online.

Now, it’s not a traditional white dress.  That’s not my style.  I’ve watched those Say Yes to the Dress shows and My Fair Wedding.  All of the women pretty much pick the same dress with slight variations.  Again, there’s nothing wrong with it, but that’s not me. I’m a slight non-conformist.

I’ve never been a fan of weddings. I hate being the center of attention. There are two people getting married, not just one.

But, I was talking about my pretty dress.  Originally, I pictured myself in a pink retro dress, but I could never find the right shade, so I opted for a different color (not white).  No, I’m not going to post a photo of it until my wedding day.  I’m not superstitious.  I just want it to be a surprise for Paul.

Why didn’t I get white?  Mostly because I don’t understand the tradition behind it. Purity? Whatever.  Queen Victoria was married in one, so everyone started copying her.  Again, whatever. It’s a tradition I feel no connection to and therefore will do what makes me happy.

It is retro.  It’s a 1950’s style dress that’s tea length and I even got a petticoat for it!  Does anyone know how to maintain a petticoat?  I tried googling it, but kept getting sites for Petticoat Junction.  Not helpful.

Right now, I’m still trying to figure out the shoe situation.  I have a pair that will work, but I’m not sure I want to use them.  Since we’re getting married in Las Vegas there will be ALOT of walking, which makes me want to shy away from heels. Of course, I can always carry a pair of comfy shoes to wear when my dogs start barking, but do I really want to have to carry stuff around?

40 thoughts on “Wedding Dress Blues

  1. Kita

    I did a cream dress for my wedding but we are celebrating our 10th yr anniversary coming up and I think I want to go different I think I will. I break traditions and do my own thing most of the time. Stopping over from SITS

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    1. Amy Ruiz Post author

      Thanks for stopping by! There are so many options out there. I was overwhelmed by them at first and a little frustrated I couldn’t find exactly what I pictured in my mind, but I love the dress I have and can’t wait to wear it.

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  2. Katie @ Doing Dewey

    I think it’s a lot of fun that you’re doing something a bit different with your wedding dress 🙂 Personally, I’ll go with white because I love a cliche, but I think it’s great that people make their weddings suit themselves by doing things a bit different from the traditional.

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  3. Laurel

    I wore a patterned dress that I had made a couple of years earlier as my wedding dress.
    You can always try chunky heels as an alternative or bring along a pair of those flats you can fold up in your purse.

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  4. Amanda R

    How about Chucks? Low tops from Target…. that would be cute AND non-conformist. 🙂

    Try calling dry cleaners re:petticoat. Or search Pin Up Clothes groups?

    #SITSblogging

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    1. Amy Ruiz Post author

      Thanks, I’m really looking forward to seeing what my bridesmaids (only having 2) have picked out too. I just told them what color to look for and find something that makes them feel beautiful. I want them to be able to wear their dress again.

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  5. Angella

    The worst part of my wedding for me was dress shopping. I don’t ever wear dresses, would have much rather showed up in a tux! In the end I went with a black and white dress. My entire wedding was far more traditional than we are as a couple. Looking back, we definitely did things to appease certain family members. Ahh to be young! Worked out fine though and was a fun day. Anyway I LOVE your dress style. That’s exactly what I would go back and do if I could. I like the halter style 50’s dresses. #SITSblogging

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    1. Amy Ruiz Post author

      Thanks! I think being slightly older than the average bride probably helps me be a little more secure in doing what I want to do and less about pleasing others…of course, it could also just be my personality. Unless someone is helping to pay for the wedding, they don’t get a say.

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  6. Nancherrow

    I love weddings, but understand that not everyone does. I think the most important thing about choosing a gown is picking something you feel lovely in. I adore the idea of a vintage/retro piece and I’m sure it’s perfect! STopping by from #SITSBlogging!

    Alison
    Nancherrow

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    1. Amy Ruiz Post author

      Thanks! I’m just not a fan of the big productions weddings have become. I appreciate the coming together of two people in love, but I think some of the fanfare has just gotten out of hand. A friend told me once about a wedding she went to where they read song lyrics as part of the ceremony instead of the traditional stuff. That sounded awesome!

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  7. Rheanna

    congrats btw! I think doing something unique and different is awesome. I especially love the retro vibe you are going for. hope you find some shoes that make it even more perfect.

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  8. Elle

    When I married the first time, I wore a white dress. The second time I wore white jeans 🙂 I’m divorced again but I’ve decided that if I ever marry again, I want a Great Gatsby themed wedding – complete with Daisy Buchanan dress 🙂
    Coming from the Comment Love Tribe
    -Elle

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  9. Alecia

    Nothing wrong with a non-traditional dress. Sometimes I wish I had gone a different route instead of the typical wedding dress. It was uncomfortable, not me, and we got married in Vegas too! Thank goodness I went to the hotel and changed before we went out for dinner or I would have been miserable in that dress and the shoes – oh my!

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  10. Char

    Congratulations! And good for you for bucking the ‘bridal white’ trend. You chose a dress you like and you feel good in, now all you’ve got to do is enjoy your special day with your hubby.
    Cheers,
    Char
    #SITSBlogging

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  11. anne

    That is so exciting. I remember picking out my dress. I went white but short and wore yellow shoes to give it some of my personality. #SITSBlogging

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  12. Angela @ The Southern Fried Bride

    So pleased to connect with you and your blog through SITS! Thank you for sharing inspiration in this post.

    #SITSblogging

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  13. Albion

    I got married in a brown turtleneck, embroidered skirt, and knee high boots. 🙂 It’s your wedding–wear what makes you happy! I’m looking forward to the dress reveal! #SITSBlogging

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  14. Geri C

    I love people who are not afraid to express themselves! You will have such great memories because you were focused on making memories and not making other people happy on your big day! Can’t wait to see the pics! Stopping by from #SITSBlogging!

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  15. Alma @ A Conquered Mess

    Congrats on the wedding! Are you nervous? Great choice on not going with the norm. A wedding should be about you and what you want. Expressing your personality is the best thing you can do. After all it is YOUR big day, and you’ll remember it forever. Why remember being only half pleased with a dress chosen to please other right?! Good luck on the big day! #SITSBlogging

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    1. Amy Ruiz Post author

      Thanks! I’m not nervous, per se. I’m more anxious from a control freak standpoint. I just want things to go smoothly and to have a good time. It will be fine. I’m just a control freak on a certain level. I’m working on that though. I’m not as bad as I used to be. With age comes the, “Eh. Oh well. There’s nothing I can do about that.” feeling.

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  16. AnnMarie

    I cannot wait to see your dress! I love that you are doing exactly what you want and not conforming. I just posted a picture of me at my wedding and the captions said, “Oh, how I wish I had a different dress.” #sitsblogging

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