>Today I realized why it’s better to surf the web to look for love than to have a friend or relative set you up with a date. When you allow yourself to be set up, you can’t express your true feelings about the first glimpse of the other party unless those feelings are positive…which they won’t be, of course.
If you don’t have a poker face and your friend or relative can tell you are not interested in the person behind the Facebook profile presented to you, just remember that there is no one to guilt you into a date if you sign up on a website. There is no one to plead the case of the unattractive as his being a great guy who treats women like princesses. Note to any of my friends who might be reading this post, using that princess argument doesn’t work on me. I’m an adult woman who wants to be treated as such, not like a helpless little girl who can’t take of herself.
Also the “it’s nice to have references” argument is weak. References are nice, but they aren’t what ultimately gets you the job.
If by some miracle the other party is attractive, odds are they won’t be attracted to you.
Friends & family, if you are hell bent on getting two people together, it’s best if you set up your acquaintances without their prior knowledge of the event. Get the people in a room together and see if anything happens, but don’t try to force the situation. Dating is already tough enough without having an audience.