I know it’s rare, but there have been a few times when I’ve rejected guys. Whenever this situation occurs, I try to act with the most respect and politeness I can muster. It’s an awful social necessity, but it is necessary. It’s not easy for the receiver of the rejection. It’s like a hangnail. It stings and it’s annoying and you regret its existence, but in a few days the wound heals and you forget all about it.
A guy I know was recently railing against all the women who’ve rejected him. They didn’t treat him with respect when they reacted to his overtures. And guess what? It really pissed him off. What the hell ladies? Do you know how much guts it takes to ask a woman out? A lot. You’re not 12 years old. Act like an adult, you idiot.
Yes, I’ve rejected a guy and he didn’t take it well. I was polite and honestly wished him well in finding someone else, but he still got all bent out of shape. I treated him with respect. He just showed his true colors. If he wants to hate me simply because I said no thank you, well, that’s not my problem. Now if I had treated him like crap, sneered at him, or just out and out ignored him, then yes, by all means hate my guts. I deserve it.
But I don’t want someone out there bad mouthing me when I could have prevented such a situation simply by acting like an adult and doing what’s right.
In the words of George Costanza, “We’re living in a society here!” Even he had enough manners to dump his dates with respect. Take a lesson, people and grow the hell up.