Rejection is part of the dance.

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I know it’s rare, but there have been a few times when I’ve rejected guys. Whenever this situation occurs, I try to act with the most respect and politeness I can muster. It’s an awful social necessity, but it is necessary. It’s not easy for the receiver of the rejection. It’s like a hangnail. It stings and it’s annoying and you regret its existence, but in a few days the wound heals and you forget all about it.

A guy I know was recently railing against all the women who’ve rejected him. They didn’t treat him with respect when they reacted to his overtures. And guess what?  It really pissed him off.  What the hell ladies? Do you know how much guts it takes to ask a woman out? A lot. You’re not 12 years old. Act like an adult, you idiot.

Yes, I’ve rejected a guy and he didn’t take it well. I was polite and honestly wished him well in finding someone else, but he still got all bent out of shape. I treated him with respect. He just showed his true colors. If he wants to hate me simply because I said no thank you, well, that’s not my problem. Now if I had treated him like crap, sneered at him, or just out and out ignored him, then yes, by all means hate my guts. I deserve it.

But I don’t want someone out there bad mouthing me when I could have prevented such a situation simply by acting like an adult and doing what’s right.

In the words of George Costanza, “We’re living in a society here!” Even he had enough manners to dump his dates with respect. Take a lesson, people and grow the hell up.

3 thoughts on “Rejection is part of the dance.

  1. s4m4nth4x

    This is something I just don’t get. If it is disrespectful to reject a potential mate, wouldn’t the opposite action be LYING to him? Would guys prefer that we date them and pretend to enjoy it, even when we aren’t feeling it? My gut says that he’d probably complain about that, too. Some guys seem to think that we should just genuinely adore them unconditionally… Ha. Good one.

    1. MsChick74 Post author

      I feel bad for rejecting someone, but that’s natural. I don’t want to hurt anyone, but it’s better to rip the bandage off early on. Rejection is painful all around, but adults handle it with dignity.

    2. MsChick74 Post author

      The guy who got mad at me for telling him no thank you obviously had issues. I did what was right. If he can’t handle it, oh well.

      I can’t pretend to be interested in a guy for the sake of keeping him happy. I’d resent him & it wouldn’t do anyone any favors in the long run.

      Life is too short. It’s better to be alone than in a shitty relationship.


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