Non-traditional wedding, bridal stuff

budget, Las Vegas, engagementIf you haven’t heard by now, I am engaged to be married.  Yes, I am a fiancee, a bride to be. The thing is, I hate weddings. I like the idea of being married, but the hub-bub necessary to get to that point freaks me out.

Before I even met, Paul, I had decided that if I ever do get married, we’re having a small wedding in Las Vegas.  I don’t even know 100 people I’d invite to a party, much less have the means to pay for such a huge shindig.  Personally, I’d rather spend that money on a trip or a down payment on a house, or both.

Aside from the monetary issue, there is the stress issue. I don’t need unnecessary stress in my life and I don’t want to get stressed out about becoming Paul’s wife and Paul becoming my husband.

Brace yourself, I will probably be writing about this adventure even though I’m trying to make it as easy and go with the flow as possible.

First off, don’t ask about the engagement ring.  Personally, I got turned off by them when I found out in college that  they were pretty much created by a diamond company to artificially inflate the diamond market. There’s an example of marketing well done.

However, if Paul has his heart set on giving me one, I will accept it. I’m not a fool and it would make him happy.  We’ve already booked the ceremony and our flights for our trip to Vegas and subsequent honeymoon, so a ring is just a formality.  We are engaged to be married because we have been discussing it for months and came to a meeting of the minds on it.

Technically, we didn’t get engaged on Christmas. We just announced it on Facebook that day.

The first time Paul brought up marriage was when he surprised me for Valentine’s Day and unexpectedly showed up at my door in California.  The next day we went to the Golden Bear for lunch and while I was eating a grilled cheese sandwich, he asked me what I thought about getting married.  He wasn’t proposing, but more like feeling out the situation.  I told him that I was on board with whatever he suggested…or something like that.

Basically, the marriage question was out there and both of us were on the same page. We’ve been planning the wedding since I moved to the Twin Cities.

After living with him for 8 months, my mind has not changed. I am more in love with him today than I was the day he came to Sacramento to pick me up and take me to Minnesota.

Moving Chronicles: Drowning in boxes

moving, empty, cleanWhy do I have all of this stuff? Remember when my apartment was empty? I’m sure Paul does and wonders when in the hell it’s ever going to be clutter free again. I swear I’m having a mini-panic attack over the amount of crap piling up everywhere. I’m tempted to just chuck it all.

But then I actually open a box and find something I haven’t seen in two years. “Oh! I totally forgot I had this. Awesome!”

If I hadn’t gotten sick this week, I’d be further along in the process, and that kind of pisses me off. I hate getting sick. I don’t have time for it!

I just have to keep remembering that it took me a while to pack everything. It’s going to take me at least half that time to unpack it all. Plus, it’s good exercise, right?

My other problem is…where in the hell am I going to put it? I’m tired of shoving things into closets and just shutting the door. I want to have stuff that I use not that I think is interesting and might use one day.

I found a bunch of photos. PHOTOS. What in the hell do I do with those? Remember when people use to put them in albums? I found some of those too.

And my feng shui idea is giving me more anxiety than it is helping me get organized. I feel like all of the stuff I have is wrong. It’s all bad chi or will create bad chi if I put it in the wrong place.

Have I mentioned that I’m exhausted?

I need to stop being so hard on myself. I know why I have some of the crap I have. It’s not that I’m lazy. It’s just that I didn’t care about getting rid of it at the time…to paraphrase Office Space. At least, I’m getting rid of it now.

I just want to wave my hands and have all the clutter gone. Oooh. You know what would be great? Someone to give us an organization paradigm. Survey our apartment and furniture and recommend where to put what, what to toss, what to buy to help stay organized.

I used to dream of falling in love and being in a relationship with a wonderful man. Now that that dream has been accomplished, I want someone to organize the crap in our apartment.

Road Trippin’

Half of the fun of a trip is getting there, right? Well this time next month, I will be getting ready to drive half way across these United States to my new home in Minnesota. And while that in and of itself will be an adventure, I do like to look at the randomness this country has to offer along side it’s beauty.

So, I Googled “sightseeing along I-80” and found this website:

Bring me the head of Abraham Lincoln! In Wyoming, there is a giant head of Abraham Lincoln carved out of bronze. Wait do you carve bronze or just cast it? Either way, I want to see it.

I mean we are going to be in the car for like 4 days. It would be nice to break it up a bit and see the Strategic Air and Space Museum. What else is there to see in Nebraska that isn’t too far off the beaten path? The world’s largest covered wagon? OK!

While looking at that website, it seems to me that Iowa has quite a few quirky sites to see. The Golden Spike monument which seems a bit phallic. Squirrel Cage Jail? It’s the largest revolving jail in the U.S. that no longer revolves. What? Oh hello, smiley water tower!

I have been told that the most boring parts of my trip will be through Nevada and Nebraska. I’ve done the Nevada trip. It is boring. The most exciting part is looking for the initials of towns carved into mountainsides. Why do they do that? I suppose I could google it.

Resolutions for 2013

Damn. Is it really 2013? The future is pretty rad. I’m totally bring back rad.

Dating, diet, and fitness ads abound on TV which means a new year is about to begin. It’s interesting that we don’t see many commercials about investing, saving money or retirement planning. Maybe that’s not as sexy as well, sex.

Last year I made some resolutions , I even achieved a few.  This year, I’ll some newish goals.

1. Writing – Since this is my passion, I want to focus on achieving more clout (not necessarily klout) in this field somehow. It might be monetary or accolades or both, but this is an area on which I’d like to focus much of my energy. I’d also like to try out new styles, join more groups & just generally engage in more ways with regard to writing.

2. Health – Diets don’t work. What I want to do is act like a skinny person. I have stopped calling myself fat, for the most part. There are still those moments, usually fueled by hormones or emotions, when I slip up. But I have been getting better about portion control. I have tried to keep sweets away from me, but they somehow find their way into my awareness. I hate exercise. I do like to walk, so I’ve been pretty good about getting out of the office for 20 minutes to get off my ass.

3. Finances – While my financial habits have improved greatly over the past year, I’m still in need of improvement. I need to cut out some stupid costs which should have been cut last year. I need to watch my dining out habits. Avoiding dirtying a dish because I’m too tired to  bother is a lame excuse to go to Chipotle. I need to increase my liquid assets. I think that means putting more cash in my savings account. It doesn’t help that I can be an emotional spender. I’m sad. Ooh look at that pretty sweater!

>Obligatory New Year’s Resolutions Post


Since Moxie gave me a resolution for the new year, I thought I would continue the list of things to attempt in 2012:

  1. Wash my hair every day. Yes, I know some of you just cringed at that. Well, I have really greasy hair. If I don’t wash it every day, it feels like a nightmare. I have to put it in a ponytail just to be presentable in public. And when I’m wearing a ponytail and it’s not 100 degrees out, it means I’m unhappy with my hair. Plus, I never know when I might run into a hot guy or one might call up out of the blue and want to go out to dinner or drinks. A gal needs to be prepared! It’s all part of the positive thinking vibe.
  2. Buy a home. This is the whole reason I’m currently living with my parents. I’m being financially responsible. I’m going to save up some money and take advantage of a crappy economic situation. I’m going to overcome my fears about growing up and owning real estate. I don’t have to be married to be a homeowner.
  3. Go to the movies. I love movies and want to write about them. I’ve been on a movie hiatus simply because I could never find a regular companion to go with me. I think the people I’ve met through Twitter have solved this problem for me. Regardless, I will suck it up and go alone if there is a movie I really want to see, but having a friend in the theater makes the experience that much better.
  4. Go to my 20 year high school reunion. Of course, I’m not going to rearrange my life to go to it, but if it fits into my schedule, it should make for a few interesting blog posts. In fact, my new attitude about things I might not want to do, but probably should is just that…”It could be an interesting blog post.” Hello posts about taking out the trash. Wait, I’ve already done that.

>Making plans

>Instead of making resolutions, I am going to make plans this year. The post-holiday blues are striking me, so I’m trying to keep my brain busy by setting some goals that might actually be achievable.

  • Lose weight – most of us want to lose weight, but I hate diets. Counting carbs, points or whatever doesn’t work and isn’t a realistic way to live. I’m just going to try and eat more vegetables. My plan is to have at least one meal with a vegetable portion. Spaghetti sauce is not going to count as a vegetable anymore!
  • Write something positive – I’ve totally been neglecting this blog. Writing is one of the things I really enjoy, but I want to focus more on positive vibes instead of just ranting about things that piss me off. I’m sure the rants will still creep in every now and then, but my plan is to write at least one positive entry each week.

I have more plans, but haven’t completely thought them through.